When you’ve been hurt before in some way (basically everybody), it’s normal to want to close off your heart to avoid getting hurt again.
But putting up walls around your heart doesn’t just block out the risk of getting hurt, you’re also blocking out new opportunities.
You want to experience more love, connection and fulfillment in your life.
But you’ve put up protective walls so high that it couldn’t possibly get in.
You aren’t allowing it to reach you.
Whether it’s a relationship or your business that you want to take to the next level – opening yourself up to receiving more means GETTING VULNERABLE.
Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Letting go of the need to control, and surrendering to the unknown.
Every time you go beyond your comfort zone, you’re gonna feel the pain of past hurts and failures.
We hold the pain of past hurts and childhood traumas in the cellular memory of our bodies and our instincts kick in to protect us from repeating that pain.
This is why most people stay in surface level connections and don’t go on to experience the kind of deep and fulfilling connection that their human-ness is craving.
Because it’s safer that way.
You dip your toes in and get a taste for something you like, and you want to go deeper.
But soon enough your toes can’t reach the ground anymore, and you face the paradox of wanting to take a risk and stay safe at the same time.
You want to be swept off your feet and carried by the currents of life…
But be able to keep your feet on the ground at the same time.
You want to be spun around in the excitement and rush of the unknown, and be open to receiving the magic and miracles of unexpected opportunities…
But be able to keep your head above water so you can see what’s coming.
You want to explore the possibilities that lie beyond the horizon…
But you keep feeling the pull to go back to shore and retreat to safety.
If you really want to dive into the pool of life and experience the kind of exhilarating passion, connection and deep fulfilment that you crave, YOU CAN HAVE IT – but there’s always an element of risk required.
You can’t choose to ONLY feel the good and avoid the pain. Life is about ALL of the feels! The contrast of knowing hurt creates the richness of knowing what love feels like.
The currents of life are flowing around us all the time. But you’re not going to get picked up by one if you aren’t willing to take your feet off the ground.
There is magic in life, but you have to flow with it.
You have to take risks.
You have to keep putting your heart on the line, again and again.
Getting vulnerable again, and being okay with that.
Even though you’ve been hurt.
It’s the only way.
You’re not always going to have your head above water, and you won’t always be able to see what’s coming next.
Sometimes you’ll feel like you are treading water – but this is when you will learn to trust.
And trust will help you to stay on course.
Remain open to receiving what you want, without attachment.
The more you are willing to surrender and let go of control, the more ways there are for what you want to reach you.
If you can loosen your grip, open your heart and let go of expectations about how it needs to come to you…
It will find you.